Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Breaking the Silence~

No matter how committed you are, or how brave, it is very difficult to recover from breast cancer if you stay in isolation. I think that bottling up feelings & emotions while cutting off yourself from the world, to recover in that isolated silent place is almost impossible.
Many have found that speaking about it for the first time, is both frightening and healing. Breaking the binds of silence is however the first step towards recovery or at least a beginning in the acceptance of what now is.
Be careful, do it gently, in a place that you feel safe.  
Your comfort and peace of mind is the only thing that matters.  It may be difficult to find the right words, and you might even get emotional, but that is ok.
It is not necessary, to tell everyone, but you may want to talk to those closest to you, so they understand how you may suddenly feel angry or sad, or may just need to be alone.
They will be much more able to support you, and to help you through the journey that lays ahead.
                                                                                                                                                                                 Because we are all unique, and will have a variety of differences, there is no set way to do this. Each of us will have our particular way to handle the situation.  Every person that you let into your inner circle will most likely react differently when you tell them. Sometimes due to their past experiences with breast cancer.
You may even find it easier to have them go to the Doctors with you, so you don't have to do all of the talking, and then they can ask all the questions that will be on their minds.
Each time you talk about it your feelings, they may change.  You may go from being sad to angry. Wanting to scream at the top of your lungs to staying silent.  Feeling like you want to grit your teeth and fight to laying down & just letting things go.  
Learn to be kind to yourself.  This is a journey, not a 100 meter dash.  It will take time to sort through all of your emotions as well as your feelings, and possible treatments.  
Remember, you are not alone... All you have to do is reach out and break the silence...

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